Why Ben will make the Biggest Mistake in Bachelor History (just my prediction, no spoilers I promise.)

If you are watching the current season of The Bachelor, perhaps you too have woken up this morning with a reality show hangover. After watching Ben kick off Emily (my personal favorite) and Rachel, and hand that final rose to the diabolical Courtney last night, I went straight to my fridge and consumed an entire vat of ice cream. The whole thing is so depressing.

Is it just me or are we are in the Twilight zone? This season is reminiscent of season 14, where Jake Pavelka proposed to fan-hated Vienna Giardi. Except Courtney makes Vienna look like Mother Teresa. My prediction for this season is that Courtney will also triumph just as Vienna did, stealing the bachelor’s heart as well as the final rose. I can hear all you women watching right now, screaming why God, why? Well, there is an explanation. You may not like it, but I’ll tell you what I believe are the four reasons that Ben will ultimately chose the most hated woman in Bachelor history to be his bride.

1. She is a model. Sorry, but most men are easily blinded by good looks, at least for a little while. Although her personality seems far from wonderful, she is a hot chick, and hot goes a long way. But the other women on the show are hot too, so it isn’t just that…

2. She is a master at Fear of Loss. Did you hear her tell Ben, “I lost the spark” and “If I didn’t get a one-on-one date, I was not taking you home to meet my family.” Courtney is the only woman on the show that has expressed she has the ability to walk away if she is not getting what she needs or wants. All the other women are doing the complete opposite! They are assuring and then reassuring Ben of their feelings. As I talk about in You Lost Him at Hello, Fear of Loss is one of the biggest motivators for getting men to propose, and Courtney is the only one who seems to understand this. Unfortunately.

3. She is Indifferent. When Ben is with Lindzi or Kacie B it is written all over their faces just how much they like him. They are smiling from ear to ear, hanging on his every word, and giggling like school girls. When Courtney is with Ben, however, she seems interested, but at the same time, gives off the perception that she is not even close to being in love. She is exercising just the right amount of indifference to keep Ben interested. (If you want to know more about Indifference, it’s all in right here)

4. Ben is a bit Insecure.  He made a comment a few episodes back that he always, “picks the girls that don’t love him back.” And hence, history is now going to repeat itself. The reason he picks these women who don’t love him is because he truly does not feel worthy of being loved in a healthy way. When a nice normal woman like Kacie B expresses her feelings, he is immediately turned off because he thinks, “Why would you love me this much? What’s wrong with you?”. He is more comfortable with women that don’t really love him because although it’s sad and unhealthy, it’s what feels right to him. Why it feels right is another story…but if he doesn’t work on this problem, he’s never going to be in a happy, balanced relationship.

My prediction:

I hope I’m wrong, but I think Courtney and Ben are going to ride off into the sunset together after the final rose ceremony. As I state in my book, using Fear of Loss and Indifference will land you the guy you want, even if you are, as Emily put it, “shallow and vapid.” However, in this case, I will also predict that Courtney and Ben’s engagement will not last and Ben will be 0-2 on the marriage proposals. Courtney is not a bad person, she’s just self-absorbed. Perhaps her parents doted on her a little too much, or perhaps it’s from constantly being in the kind of environment where people tell you that you are great all the time for doing nothing more than looking hot and smiling into a camera. Hopefully when she sees herself on the show she will get a glimpse into how own her feelings about herself rub people the wrong way. I’m confident that she can change, and even make a complete turn around if she really wants to.  I guess we’ll see…

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